Anyone here childfree?
I know this can be a touchy topic for some, so please don't post here if you're going to be judgmental. Thank you!!
My husband and I have known each other since 5th grade. We're high School sweethearts and will be celebrating our 15th anniversary this year! A few years ago after many years of serious talks we decided not to have kids. For many reasons, some very personal and some not so personal.
I'm VERY lucky in the fact my family are all very happy with whatever we do so we never get family pressure, on either side, to have kids. Most of my friends are happy for us too. Some don't have kids themselves and never will others don't know yet. It's strangers that have given me the most grief about it. People who don't know me at all. I'm not sure why this is. They think we're selfish, or mean, or whatever. We know what we want and what we can handle. Why would someone want us to have a kid that wouldn't have 100% of what we would want for a kid if we had one?
Forcing people to have kids, or telling people they don't have the option to say no is one cause of child abuse and neglect. I personally think we as a culture should encourage this choice not condemn it. You see childfree people in movies and on TV and you see greedy horrible rabbit killing people. Not normal people. Not people like us. You see people who don't want kids, then something happens and they get all gooey and want them. Which then stereo types us into the "you'll change your mind" camp.
OK before I go into this too much I was just wondering if there are others like me on this forum. If anyone would be interested in discussing this. And no you don't have to be childfree to post here. Parents are welcome and if it's not too painful people who want to have kids but can't can also post here too.
I would like this to be a safe zone where we can discuss the many things that come up in our lives.
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