Hi Lesa and welcome,
It is hard to really say with just a short description, but if you posted a picture I bet we could get you close.
Here's just some general advice: Don't cut any leaves off. Fertilize on a regular basis (weekly or bi-monthly), but only at about 1/4 to 1/2 of the recommended dosage. And finally, cutting the flower stalk is fine, but some can bloom from an old spike so sometimes I leave it and just let it either re-bloom or start to dry. If it dries I snip it.